It’s been too long since I last posted and I wanted to get another in before the year finishes. Since my last post I’ve been getting settled in my new job and I’ve gone a bit mad with my crochet but I’m not complaining. I had planned to post about not expecting too much from people but I got stuck halfway through so that’s on the backburner until the new year.
This is going to be a post about the things I want to achieve next year and the things I’m proud of from this year. I don’t do resolutions or any of that “New Year New Me” bollocks, I just think about the things I can do to continue improving. If I think of something in the middle of the year I want to achieve I’ll think of how to best succeed at it and start working on it, there’s no reason to wait for a new year/week/day.
I know 2016 hasn’t been the best year for a lot of people and during the first half, I thought things were going to be bad for me too but the second half has been great. So, I’ll get onto the good things from this year first…
- I graduated from university with a first class degree with honours – this was a surprise because I expected a 2:1; I put as much effort in as humanly possible and it paid off. Getting a first really boosted my confidence and now I feel good enough to do the job I do.
- I moved into my own flat – three years ago, when I started university, I thought I was going to get ridiculously homesick and not be able to manage on my own but now I couldn’t imagine not living in my own place. Living on my own has also shown me that I’m capable of providing for myself and not injuring/poisoning myself.
- I proved to myself that I’m a strong, independent woman – initially, when I became single in July I felt worthless and stupid because I’d forgotten how good I am on my own and I blamed myself even though there was nothing for me to feel bad about. Since two days after my two year “relationship” ended my mental health has improved so much that I genuinely can’t remember being as happy and well as I am now.
- I got the job I wanted and deserved – I spent a month doing a job I hated and ended up being signed off for 3 weeks because I was getting too stressed. In those 3 weeks I got my current job which I love. It’s with the youth work organisation I’ve been with since May and I’m responsible for recruiting young people who are interested in voluntary work then supporting them once I’ve found them a placement. At the moment it’s a 12 month contract which might mean I have to find something new again next October but at least I’m getting experience in things like coordinating volunteers, management, and meeting targets.
As well as all of the above I’ve learned how to crochet (and I’ve made Christmas presents from my new skills), I’ve been employed by the university as a casual life model (I haven’t had any jobs from them yet), and I’ve met some cool new people.
Over the next 12 months there are lots of things I want to do so I’ll share the main three. Before I tell you what they are, please bear in mind that we can’t all be the same or agree on anything so if you’re going to tell me I’m making bad decisions, don’t bother. I’ve done my research and I am totally capable of succeeding.
- I’m shaving my head for charity – if you don’t know me in real life then you won’t know that I’m going to get my head shaved on my birthday (25th February in case you want to get me a present) and I’m doing it to raise money for Target Ovarian Cancer. The hair that’s being cut off first is going to The Little Princess Trust again then I’ll be getting the rest shaved/tidied. I chose Target Ovarian Cancer in memory of my gran and if you’d like to donate even a little bit of money then you can do it here:
I’m fully aware that shaving my hair off will mean my head will get cold, yes I am really getting it all shaved, and no I don’t care if it makes me look less “girly”.
- I’m going cruelty free – I’ve wanted to do this for a while and the last few times I’ve bought makeup I’ve made sure it’s from cruelty free brands. I think we’re in a time now where we don’t need to test makeup, shampoo, soap, etc on animals and so many companies already manage to make their products without harming animals. I’ll be using up anything I already have that isn’t cruelty free and replacing it with the cf alternative. If you’re not sure about what’s cruelty free and what isn’t then PETA have lists and guidelines and there are apps and other websites that will tell you.
- I’m going to be vegan – this is the change that has attracted the most negative responses from the people I’ve told which really boggles my brain. I’m making this decision because I don’t feel like I can honestly say I’m going cruelty free if I’m still eating meat and I shouldn’t have much dairy anyway because I’m a bit lactose intolerant so why shouldn’t I go vegan? My decision isn’t going to negatively impact on anyone. I honestly think I would get more positive responses if I said I’d stolen a child’s tricycle and rode over all the puppies in sight. I definitely wouldn’t get as much ridicule for doing that. Also, I can’t get my head around what people don’t understand about being vegan; in essence you just don’t eat anything that comes from animals. And don’t worry your little heads about my protein and vitamins because I’ve got those sorted, I don’t need meat for them.
If you still have horrible things to say about any of these choices, I suggest you write them on a piece of paper and eat them because I don’t care. I don’t want to be told that I’ll fail at being a vegan. I don’t want to be told what I should eat. I don’t want to be told that my life decisions are stupid or pointless. I can do whatever I put my mind to, we all can.
What are you all aiming for? Whatever it is, go for it. Just don’t leave anyone worse off if you can help it.
I hope you all have the year you deserve.